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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
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And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

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On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

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My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2018
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
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A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

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Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
world of words __ Logical right__Friday __ What kind of style
Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding


Just for daily FUN
Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
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Country girl toys...
Posted:Apr 16, 2018 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2018 6:58 pm
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Yep the adult toys!



Silicone dicks don't replace a man (as much as many thinks that happens),
But yard work is soo much easier with a Hitachi!
.

Lame moanday humor, but I thought it was funny!!

Adult toys done country style. Lol

But our little mini excavator will have to do for the yard work this spring, our machine is out working on another site.

Enjoy the tail end of the day sexy bloggers!
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Chat and pic sharing...
Posted:Apr 15, 2018 3:49 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2018 7:00 pm
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One thing that is really easy to find is sex chat or sexting, 'pic sharing', whatever you want to call but it's basically online nsa play with (usually) someone basically 'anonymous'. Unless you have met and dated or had sex, but it's still easier to find a guy looking for online play rather than real life. (yep I know from experience, I also know where to find it). 😁

Anyway let's just say that my sex chat skillz are not 1 800 worthy. 😁😅 
Even with my past lovers and partners I would still prefer to just meet in real life and do those things that he wants to sext about. 😏
Ya ya I get sometimes phone sex is hot and especially with someone anonymous, custom porn for free! (yep . these guys are everywhere on the dating sites). Plenty of photo collectors out there also. 😒 

So when it comes to men on dating sites demanding nude photos or sext chat before meeting (or even with the first few dates) I just ignore amd move on. Like I said there are sex sites to easily find a guy looking for online play, why use a dating site. AND yes there are plenty of women that enjoy the online play also, but I search for men not women. 



And then, 
So when the convo turns to sexual interests there can be a fine line between having an adult discussion and him fishing for sex chat. lol. Yes experience with this, and I bet I am not alone with this. Pretty much 4 out of 5 guys that I have chatted with in the last 8 yrs wanted online play and to not meet, or they would meet once then promise to meet again.. 😁
Back to sex chat, the long way around, I am far more hands on and visual rather than pretend I am putting whatever in whatnot hole and fake moaning it. lol! 
Although I did humour my established partners with sexting, but it was not my preferred method of interaction. 😁 

Netflix even did a show on 'addicted to sexting', and the shallow validation you receive from it. As long as both parties agree to it then have fun, but I will still prefer the hands on method (even if you are in camp).

Yes I Understand that some flirting has its place when meeting someone new, but can you just try to get to know the person before asking for sex chat. Lol. 

I won't ask how many are into sexting because your inbox would explode with men looking for free custom porn. But some days it saddens me that he would rather play online rather than meet, but also experience shows that there is a good chance he is not as single as he claims....  lol! 

Anyway sexy bloggers,
How often do you get hit up for sex chat on dating sites?
Or fish for sex chat or "pic sharing" on a dating site?

(Obviously not written for this site as I and referring to actual dating sites)
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Sinday coffee
Posted:Apr 15, 2018 10:41 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2018 1:09 pm
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Well sexy bloggers it's another day to mark the end of a long week.
Today I'm working just below the snow line in the mountains so it has that crisp feel in the air but I can see the spring green in the valley bottom.

I was hoping to enjoy my sinday with a nice dark coffee, bacon and hash browns, instead it was a thin coffee (pops can't drink the strong coffee, and I stopped at the ranch house for a morning hello) and a quick switch of vehicles to take the silverado to town today.


(Found this sexy profile on the kink site, he has many great photos)

But now as I'm hanging out on the hillside, there is sunshine but it's trying to rain now.... geesh.
I have been mulling over my ongoing issue of trying to figure man out.
You offer sex they say no.
You with hold sex they complain.
You say you will try most anything they cringe.
You say you only want X instead of A-zz then they ask why you don't want A B C Ff.... lol

You say no strings attached and get treated poorly.
You say relationship and it can be years before you see a date.
You say I'm thin, they say not thin enough.
....

Well it's been a very long time since I have had morning coffee with a man.

Sexy bloggers may as well start somewhere,
SO how do you like your coffee/tea/water/drink on a sinday morning?
Favorite weekend brunch or breakfast?
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Spring maintenance. ..
Posted:Apr 14, 2018 9:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2018 9:27 pm
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Ah well,
Regardless of my dead end search....

I still enjoy the warmer seasons because it means summer dresses and painted toenails!!.
I will be hitting up the nail salon in the next week or so to get my nails shaped and prepped for the warmer season. It's always funny when I go in their with my grungy work gear on and my flip flops. shall I mention the hairy legs



At least my toes look good, even if I'm stuck way out in the badlands. Lol!
And I have to wear steel toe boots all week.

Out of all my man-friends only a small handful would go and get a pedicure done or at least maintain thier toe hair and man-nails.
Doods! For the love of all things natural please please look after your toesies!!

I find it kinda of a ladyboner killer when I see gnarly toes (and no, keeping your socks on isn't the answer)
And say no to socks n sandles. Lol

Sexy bloggers
MEN ->Manicures and pedicures?
Manscaping of the body hair and ear hair??
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Endless Friday. ..
Posted:Apr 13, 2018 7:08 pm
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2018 10:25 am
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Finally Friday in the badlands!
It was one of those weeks that just wouldn't end fast enough.

I quite enjoy my job and I like working but I have a tonne of stuff to do at home right now. .... plus I need time still to get over my libido. Lol.
It's trying to rear it's ugly head again, haunting most every other thought and creating a longing that I don't need right now.

Having to settle for finding a relationship is kinda making me a little depressed knowing that monogamy equals limited sex ...but at least he may put effort into it, well far more what a hookup guy will do.

How do you get over that "limited" feeling of having monogamous sex?
I already know that you aren't supposed to ask for more than what he can offer when it comes to sex, intimacy, and everything else that comes with it.
How many older men are still into having sex within a relationship...

It's weird because I searched for near 10 years for someone open to sexploring but have come up empty, which now only leaves monogamy. Lol

Ya....I'm glad it's Friday and I'm in the middle of nowhere,.
It's depressing being on the dating site ........



Where are those unicorns that a fun and still looking for great sex? For trying new things? For believing in trust...

I definitely starting to believe that it's like winning the powerball to find a man that enjoys sex. Lol!!!!!
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Cheesy....
Posted:Apr 11, 2018 9:08 pm
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2018 9:08 pm
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Pick up lines


Ya, that will work.

What kind of lines have you used or heard?
Any fun ones?

I have heard a few over the years, I can say that the occasional one worked and got a date out of it...and I have tried a few but men go on looks amd not wit.


Hump day and it's all downhill from here
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Tues I think.
Posted:Apr 10, 2018 2:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2018 1:04 pm
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....actually the married one is the one that bites because according to most attached men on dating sites and the divorced guys...the wife rarely gave bjs something like two times a year - on his bday and again on steak n bj day!

Enjoy the day.
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Mutual pleasure = ?
Posted:Apr 9, 2018 4:52 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2018 1:15 pm
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Sexy bloggers....dating sites can be exasperating to say the least.

How come when I describe my fantasies, desires, wishes n wants when it comes to sex means I'm looking for a cuckold?? Meaning a guys pleasure isn't important to me. Especially when my goal with sex is mutual pleasure first and foremost.
When I mention that I have desires that take a trusted partner means that I want a cuck. When I mention how important my pleasure is (considering I have met far more penis centered men) and how I want a partner that is willing or at least understands what a high libido is........
Plus many of my kinks revolving around his pleasure like cock worship and long slow bjs, or P massage.. . Well Any of his kinks that do not include more women.(and if fmf/ffm is his main kink then we are mismatched anyway. Lol.)



So sexy bloggers,
When a woman describes how she likes sex do you automatically whip out the words "femanazi" or "cuckold" or "selfish"...??

(unless it's purely selfish but really most guys think sex is only for thier orgasm hence casual sex is about getting him off).

Do you avoid women that know what it takes for mutual pleasure, or she at least knows how to make herself orgasm?

Is mutual pleasure such a bad thing???

What are your thoughts on mutual pleasure/slow sex/tantric/anything but a quickie? (Men I'm interested in your view for sure)

When does it come into play when you say you like a woman that is confident with sex? Does it only count when she is describing your orgasm only?

How do you (male readers) want her to tell you how she enjoys sex?

Considering many guys claim they like it when a woman 'takes control' or that she knows what she desires... right now I think you are just saying that so you will get women to bang you.
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Sinday coffee n a haunted beaver 👻
Posted:Apr 8, 2018 10:37 am
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2018 9:13 pm
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Well well sexy bloggers it's sinday again!

One thing that is nice about living in the semi-remote country,
I can masturbate in the pale moon light outside.
Ya ok, so little perverted but I like outdoor play. It gets my juices flowing, both mind n body. Lol

Haunted beaver
It's been so busy here that I have been just too tired to rub one out, plus my jedi mind control about controlling my libido yada yada yada....
That darn little beaver still reminds me that it is there, causing a few creaks n groans in my imagination, beggin for a petting.
Haunts my dreams and pulls past lovers into its sleepy embrace only to turn up the heat and make the bed swim in a puddle of lust driven ..... ghosts

Either way sexy bloggers,
as much as I try and turn down my libido it is still there, teasing at my thoughts, captivating my dreams with the touch of a lover. .. where you want to feel his hand you see it there you see him touching and tasting but you are waiting to FEEL it!
I wake up longing for that touch, to feel my wet, to caress my mind



But -> that little beaver has a faux hawk now!
Needs a trim amd a massage.

Sexy bloggers on a sinday,
What tantalizing dream haunts your nights
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Haha! Thanks!
Posted:Apr 6, 2018 7:00 pm
Last Updated:Apr 8, 2018 10:18 am
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You know who you are!



Ya ok.... sums up my dating...lol... I get it.

Happy Friday sexy bloggers!

It's trying to be spring here but we are having intermittent snow/rain with a spackle of sunshine and overcast.

Mid April I will have settled in the new (old) place, then time to get cracken on finding a venue to host kink events. Lol
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Searching for lovers?
Posted:Apr 5, 2018 9:30 am
Last Updated:Apr 8, 2018 8:28 pm
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Perhaps a tantric lover is what you need.
If they are truly skilled in the art of tantric lovemaking, they will be able to hold off on their orgasm to pleasure you till your are sated. Tantric lovers are also not selfish. They are pleasers, they get pleasure by pleasing their woman. They know they will be pleased in the end.
They can transfer sexual energy to their partner if that partner is open to receive it."
> thank you to the responder for reminding me of this!

Like many of the blog followers remember or recall my search for partners has been less than stellar. Lol. The good date out of ten was not the kind of odds I like or had the patience for.
But I have moved on from the casual/nsa guys because I did not like thier attitudes with the sex and they are not the kind of partner I needed. So I started searching for others with the same interests as me, now let's just say that the vast majority of those men where looking for much younger women and my search came to a halt once again.

I am openly kink friendly and I have been open to casual partners over the years , but I am at the point that I need a reliable partner that I can truly be my sexual self with! Some that will let me just enjoy sex for the sake of pleasure!
Some that won't say derogatory things about my libido or interests in sex and sexytimes. Some to explore the deeper connection of tantric sex.....

Some that I can feel sexually free with is the ultimate fantasy for me!

Sure I have fantasies around mfm or mmf, or 5 man gb, or all sorts of sexy things I want to do with a man.... but most take having that reliable partner that you can trust to keep you safe while you are lost in sexspace. There is soo much sex I need to catch up on.... where is my stag...

In this age of the hookup culture where on earth do you find compatible partners for everything else.
Do many take the time to enjoy the others persons pleasure or is the age of selfish sex the only thing on the menu.

Have you ever wanted the better experience or are the notches on the bedpost all that you need... have you come to that point where you desire a better connection?
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